Raja Ravi Varma (1848-1906)
My earliest recollection of special treatment, is my mother telling us stories of how she would crave for something (ice cream, mango, peas, etc) when she was pregnant and my father, Anna, would roam the city, sometimes late at night, just to fulfil her wish.
When we made a fuss, or wanted special treatment, Amma and Anna would shake their head slowly and sadly, and say, "We have a Salem Bananti in our home!"
Salem Bananti was the name given to THE most famous pregnant / nursing person in all of Salem district. The one that caused the entire Namakkal household of my paternal grandmother (Ajji) to run around satisfying the needs, and wishes, and whims of one person. This one person was Ajji's cousin, a mere 12 years older than my father and considered the most intelligent in the family.
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Anna does not remember why such a fuss was made of Sheshagiri Rao. All he remembers is that there was always a great fuss about things. Mundane things. Things like the famous South Indian weekly oil bath.
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Then she would go to the bathroom to draw water for his bath, for only she could determine the right temperature. And when he finished his bath, he would lay on a bed, with his head hanging over the side, a thin malabar towel draped like a tent, covering his hair and a samrani (a wood fired small angeethi), so that his hair would dry fast, preventing him from catching a cold. This is how pregnant and nursing mothers' hair was quickly dried in the old days. On special occasions, his mother would sprinkle sandalwood powder on the samrani so that his hair smelled fragrant! Salem Bananti got the same treatment till the day he died, for these rituals were passed mother to wife.
It wasn't just the fuss over his bath. If Salem Bananti caught a cold or fever, the entire household came to a standstill, for everyone had to take care of him, from trying out new home remedies, to finding the culprit who caused Sheshagiri Rao to fall ill!
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When I asked Anna, how Sheshagiri Rao's wife and kids dealt with his extreme fussiness, he said, "They did what was asked of them. It was a man's world those days, and he would get what he wanted, as and when he wanted. Simple."
So now when Anna is "all there" i.e. not hallucinating or disoriented, and he makes a huge fuss, I ask him why he is behaving like Salem Bananti. He normally smiles at this and we share a laugh at how Sheshagiri Rao's short hair was dried by the heat of a samrani like a pregnant / nursing woman's!